Auntie Nangy I have never reached a climax
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 18 years old and had sex five times but still, I have not reached an orgasm.
My dear, I don't know where to start answering your question and I hope Auntie will do so well. All I can say is sex is not just as easy as ABC like most people think. It is an art. It is like painting a picture or decorating a room. When you do it well, you will enjoy looking at your finished art work or sitting back and enjoying the comfort and splendour of your well-decorated room. While any man knows how to make love to a woman, it requires great skill to make a woman like you have said, reach an orgasm, or that point of no return. You said you had sex five times but still he didn't take you to cloud nine. Well, it is not about the number of rounds but about quality. Most men need to be lectured on how to satisfy a woman. For a man, it is just a question of imagination and they get fired up and are ready to go, while for women, the man has a job to do to get her ready. I cannot tell you every step in this column, but, you can read books about sex and next time when your man wants to give you a two minute noodle, you will tell him to slow down. Love making is like going on a journey. Speed kills and it is dangerous. You want a leisurely speed in order to marvel the surroundings and enjoy the conversations. The only difference is the sex driver accelerates in order to get to his destination and yours too.
Pain and vaginal discharge
Dear Auntie Nangy, I'm 16, and I want you to help me. I have a problem. I just feel pain in my cervix. Sometimes a white discharge comes out of my vagina. Please help me.
I always advise people to the clinic or to see their family doctor with health-related issues because Auntie Nangy is not a medical doctor. Are you sexually active and did you have unprotected sex? Unfortunately I cannot say whether the white discharge from your vagina id healthy or not but there three types of discharged that I can tell you about. However a thick white discharge at the beginning and at the end of your menstrual cycle is normal and you shouldn't worry. If the discharge is not much, it is normal and women discharge it as a cleansing process. The fluid is produced by glands inside the vagina. It is when the bacterial balance of the vagina changes that causes the discharge to smell, change colour and texture. Netdoctor gives five reasons why women's vaginas cry. Firstly, just before ovulating you get a discharge. This happens two or three days before ovulating. Secondly, you can get a discharge a few days after ovulating. Thirdly, if you are pregnant the vagina also discharges a whitish discharge. Fourthly, stress like the one you have now can cause the vagina to discharge. If you have an infection the vagina will also produce a discharge and lastly, a rusty or reddish discharge is common after your period. Sometimes the imbalance can be caused by using soap to wash the vagina, for example. To have peace of mind just go to the nearest clinic for a medical check-up especially that you mention that you feel pain and if you have an infection, it needs urgent treatment. When I was pregnant and had thrush that is caused by hormonal imbalances during pregnancy, I was told just to apply natural yoghurt and it worked perfectly.
No Kissing
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend he doesn't want us to kiss each other. What can I do?
It is always good to give more information about your relationship, like how long you are in it and your ages. But, anyway let me try and reason why your man is skirting kissing. Your man might have had bad kissing experiences in the past or he does not kiss you because he does know how to kiss. Some guys feel intimidated by their girls even though he is physically attracted to you and your man could be in this predicament. It can be that he lacks self-confidence and is not sure how he will be rated against other guys who kissed you before. I really feel for you to be in a relationship with a man who does not kiss you. It is like having a delicious meal but with no salt. Kissing strengthens intimacy and has a binding effect in a romantic relationship. There a numerous sensory nerves on the lips that make kissing an amazing experience. Some people say it is an application above for a vacancy below and this could be the reason why your lover avoids kissing fearing he will be worked up and won't be able to hold back. Just don't take it negatively. It will come, be patient.
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 18 years old and had sex five times but still, I have not reached an orgasm.
My dear, I don't know where to start answering your question and I hope Auntie will do so well. All I can say is sex is not just as easy as ABC like most people think. It is an art. It is like painting a picture or decorating a room. When you do it well, you will enjoy looking at your finished art work or sitting back and enjoying the comfort and splendour of your well-decorated room. While any man knows how to make love to a woman, it requires great skill to make a woman like you have said, reach an orgasm, or that point of no return. You said you had sex five times but still he didn't take you to cloud nine. Well, it is not about the number of rounds but about quality. Most men need to be lectured on how to satisfy a woman. For a man, it is just a question of imagination and they get fired up and are ready to go, while for women, the man has a job to do to get her ready. I cannot tell you every step in this column, but, you can read books about sex and next time when your man wants to give you a two minute noodle, you will tell him to slow down. Love making is like going on a journey. Speed kills and it is dangerous. You want a leisurely speed in order to marvel the surroundings and enjoy the conversations. The only difference is the sex driver accelerates in order to get to his destination and yours too.
Pain and vaginal discharge
Dear Auntie Nangy, I'm 16, and I want you to help me. I have a problem. I just feel pain in my cervix. Sometimes a white discharge comes out of my vagina. Please help me.
I always advise people to the clinic or to see their family doctor with health-related issues because Auntie Nangy is not a medical doctor. Are you sexually active and did you have unprotected sex? Unfortunately I cannot say whether the white discharge from your vagina id healthy or not but there three types of discharged that I can tell you about. However a thick white discharge at the beginning and at the end of your menstrual cycle is normal and you shouldn't worry. If the discharge is not much, it is normal and women discharge it as a cleansing process. The fluid is produced by glands inside the vagina. It is when the bacterial balance of the vagina changes that causes the discharge to smell, change colour and texture. Netdoctor gives five reasons why women's vaginas cry. Firstly, just before ovulating you get a discharge. This happens two or three days before ovulating. Secondly, you can get a discharge a few days after ovulating. Thirdly, if you are pregnant the vagina also discharges a whitish discharge. Fourthly, stress like the one you have now can cause the vagina to discharge. If you have an infection the vagina will also produce a discharge and lastly, a rusty or reddish discharge is common after your period. Sometimes the imbalance can be caused by using soap to wash the vagina, for example. To have peace of mind just go to the nearest clinic for a medical check-up especially that you mention that you feel pain and if you have an infection, it needs urgent treatment. When I was pregnant and had thrush that is caused by hormonal imbalances during pregnancy, I was told just to apply natural yoghurt and it worked perfectly.
No Kissing
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my boyfriend he doesn't want us to kiss each other. What can I do?
It is always good to give more information about your relationship, like how long you are in it and your ages. But, anyway let me try and reason why your man is skirting kissing. Your man might have had bad kissing experiences in the past or he does not kiss you because he does know how to kiss. Some guys feel intimidated by their girls even though he is physically attracted to you and your man could be in this predicament. It can be that he lacks self-confidence and is not sure how he will be rated against other guys who kissed you before. I really feel for you to be in a relationship with a man who does not kiss you. It is like having a delicious meal but with no salt. Kissing strengthens intimacy and has a binding effect in a romantic relationship. There a numerous sensory nerves on the lips that make kissing an amazing experience. Some people say it is an application above for a vacancy below and this could be the reason why your lover avoids kissing fearing he will be worked up and won't be able to hold back. Just don't take it negatively. It will come, be patient.