Shedding light on the rainbow communityProud and owning it! The end of June has marked the conclusion of the internationally celebrated pride month but this doesn’t mean that discussions about inclusivity and acceptance of Queer individuals and the revision of laws regarding discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity have come to a close. Evany van Wyk and Ester Kamati
Aedin Mohrmann, the co-founder of Land of the queers expressed that negative perceptions of the LGBTQIA+ community are common despite the fact that these are simply normal human beings with a different sexual orientation. “We would like to create a space where everybody can feel safe and express themselves, he said.” Land of the queers was birthed after Mohrmann ‘came out’ to his mother and thereafter realized that there are other people who may have had similar experiences to his and wanted to create a platform where these individuals can share their stories and experiences and offer advice to those who need it as they face challenges including but not limited to breaking through stigma. Mohrmann expressed that acceptance means the world to the queer society as it creates a world where people can step away from labels and simply be themselves and not feel unsafe for expressing themselves.
Samantha Feris, a phycologist from let’s talk psychology describes a gender non-conforming person as an individual who’s gender expression is different from their physical gender. She added that the term is used to refer to people who do not conform to the stereotypical or social expectations of their gender or birth sex. According to her, this could be seen through using different pronouns e.g. a female identifying as he or him, dressing differently, e.g. a male person dressing femininely or committing to stereotypes that match other genders such as men wearing feminine makeup.
Acceptance
People who form part of the LGBTQIA+ community globally face a lot of judgement and rejection from not only society but their inner circles as well, Feris explained that parents especially use religion to justify their non-acceptance or say a child's untraditional sexuality will bring disgrace upon their family. “We need to realize that many parental generations were raised with strict Biblical beliefs that God created ‘man’ and ‘woman’ and wouldn’t want their children to go against that, s/he said.”
She added that this can be improved if parents foster caring relationships to understand their children’s reasoning regarding their LGBTQIA+ identity as well as showing them sufficient love an acceptance despite external judgements. In addition, showing queer individuals a sense of belonging through inviting their partner or friends to family gatherings will improve their relationship and make them feel accepted.
A new study from the Family Acceptance Project (FAP) finds that though there are a number of sources for the support of the LGBTQIA+ youth, none has as big an impact as acceptance by families. According to Feris, peer support, community support, and being out and open all contribute to life satisfaction, self-esteem, and sense of self-worth and belonging for young people, but family support had a significantly stronger influence to adjustment and well-being in general.
Support groups
Jholerina Angel-Khoetage Timbo, a transgender activist founded ’Wings To Transcend Namibia (WTTN)’ in 2015, an organisation that focuses on transgender inclusion in a Namibian society. Timbo had to live in “the closet” but despite this, she was still stigmatised and discriminated against by other students. “It really got to me because many of the teachers turned a blind eye,” said Timbo. According to her, Namibia is not so different from most African countries whereby religion and culture are often used to justify intolerance and hate. Timbo further mentioned that Namibia especially needs to work on inclusivity. ”Regardless of one’s sexual orientation and gender identity, we are human and deserve to be protected by the law,” Timbo stated. According to her, Namibia can never be a thriving country as everyone is not afforded the same opportunities just based on sexual orientation and gender identity. “When a person loses the right to be different, you lose the freedom to be free,” Timbo concluded.
Understanding the importance of a support group, Marcelo Coetzee, a Nust student established the LGBTQIA+ Society to create awareness regarding different sexual orientations and to further educate interested parties on all related LGBTQIA+ discussions. In addition, he mentioned that this society creates a prejudice free zone for all its members. Coetzee expressed that being surrounded by individuals who accept them for who they truly are, sets students’ minds at ease even if their family doesn’t accept them and that they find a sense of belonging. “This shows society that their discrimination reaches the youth as well and is proof that the youth is ready to take a stand for what they believe is right,” Coetzee added.
“Coming out”
Coetzee advised queer individuals to take their time when it comes to letting people in on their sexual orientation as this may be a difficult announcement to make. “Your journey is your own, don’t be rushed or intimidated by others who are further along in their own journey of self-discovery. Sexuality and self-expression are complex things that take a while to figure out, so take your time and trust that you will find yourself and reach a level of self-love and confidence to be yourself,” he said.
Speaking to a member of the LGBTQIA+ community in Namibia who has not yet come out of the proverbial closet, Zone got some insight as to what challenges are faced. According to the individual who prefers to remain anonymous, he identifies as bisexual. He also further added that he has not told his parents yet. “Because of their strong religious believes, it is quite difficult for me to be honest,” he said. He does however hope that he can one day gather enough strength to be able to tell his parents, because pretending to be someone you’re not can have its psychological toll. “I’m supposed to share everything with my parents, but I’m too scared of how they’ll react,” he said. This is a problem that many of Namibia’s youth struggle with. Every day around the world, LGBTIQ people’s human rights and dignity are abused in ways that shock the conscience. The stories of their struggles and their resilience are astounding, yet remain unknown or ignored by those with the power to make change.
Importance of pride month
Pride month
“Celebrating pride shows the country that we as the LGBTQIA+ community will not remain silent to the unfair treatment and discrimination that most members of the community go through. Pride allows us to stand together”- Marcello Coetzee
“Pride month is a celebration of the tenacity of the human spirit that despite the tribulations and systems put in place, love and inclusivity, which the rainbow community wants to foster still prevails. Pride month is not necessarily just for queer people but for allies and those who resect and support the rainbow community”- Aedin Mohrmann
Aedin Mohrmann, the co-founder of Land of the queers expressed that negative perceptions of the LGBTQIA+ community are common despite the fact that these are simply normal human beings with a different sexual orientation. “We would like to create a space where everybody can feel safe and express themselves, he said.” Land of the queers was birthed after Mohrmann ‘came out’ to his mother and thereafter realized that there are other people who may have had similar experiences to his and wanted to create a platform where these individuals can share their stories and experiences and offer advice to those who need it as they face challenges including but not limited to breaking through stigma. Mohrmann expressed that acceptance means the world to the queer society as it creates a world where people can step away from labels and simply be themselves and not feel unsafe for expressing themselves.
Samantha Feris, a phycologist from let’s talk psychology describes a gender non-conforming person as an individual who’s gender expression is different from their physical gender. She added that the term is used to refer to people who do not conform to the stereotypical or social expectations of their gender or birth sex. According to her, this could be seen through using different pronouns e.g. a female identifying as he or him, dressing differently, e.g. a male person dressing femininely or committing to stereotypes that match other genders such as men wearing feminine makeup.
Acceptance
People who form part of the LGBTQIA+ community globally face a lot of judgement and rejection from not only society but their inner circles as well, Feris explained that parents especially use religion to justify their non-acceptance or say a child's untraditional sexuality will bring disgrace upon their family. “We need to realize that many parental generations were raised with strict Biblical beliefs that God created ‘man’ and ‘woman’ and wouldn’t want their children to go against that, s/he said.”
She added that this can be improved if parents foster caring relationships to understand their children’s reasoning regarding their LGBTQIA+ identity as well as showing them sufficient love an acceptance despite external judgements. In addition, showing queer individuals a sense of belonging through inviting their partner or friends to family gatherings will improve their relationship and make them feel accepted.
A new study from the Family Acceptance Project (FAP) finds that though there are a number of sources for the support of the LGBTQIA+ youth, none has as big an impact as acceptance by families. According to Feris, peer support, community support, and being out and open all contribute to life satisfaction, self-esteem, and sense of self-worth and belonging for young people, but family support had a significantly stronger influence to adjustment and well-being in general.
Support groups
Jholerina Angel-Khoetage Timbo, a transgender activist founded ’Wings To Transcend Namibia (WTTN)’ in 2015, an organisation that focuses on transgender inclusion in a Namibian society. Timbo had to live in “the closet” but despite this, she was still stigmatised and discriminated against by other students. “It really got to me because many of the teachers turned a blind eye,” said Timbo. According to her, Namibia is not so different from most African countries whereby religion and culture are often used to justify intolerance and hate. Timbo further mentioned that Namibia especially needs to work on inclusivity. ”Regardless of one’s sexual orientation and gender identity, we are human and deserve to be protected by the law,” Timbo stated. According to her, Namibia can never be a thriving country as everyone is not afforded the same opportunities just based on sexual orientation and gender identity. “When a person loses the right to be different, you lose the freedom to be free,” Timbo concluded.
Understanding the importance of a support group, Marcelo Coetzee, a Nust student established the LGBTQIA+ Society to create awareness regarding different sexual orientations and to further educate interested parties on all related LGBTQIA+ discussions. In addition, he mentioned that this society creates a prejudice free zone for all its members. Coetzee expressed that being surrounded by individuals who accept them for who they truly are, sets students’ minds at ease even if their family doesn’t accept them and that they find a sense of belonging. “This shows society that their discrimination reaches the youth as well and is proof that the youth is ready to take a stand for what they believe is right,” Coetzee added.
“Coming out”
Coetzee advised queer individuals to take their time when it comes to letting people in on their sexual orientation as this may be a difficult announcement to make. “Your journey is your own, don’t be rushed or intimidated by others who are further along in their own journey of self-discovery. Sexuality and self-expression are complex things that take a while to figure out, so take your time and trust that you will find yourself and reach a level of self-love and confidence to be yourself,” he said.
Speaking to a member of the LGBTQIA+ community in Namibia who has not yet come out of the proverbial closet, Zone got some insight as to what challenges are faced. According to the individual who prefers to remain anonymous, he identifies as bisexual. He also further added that he has not told his parents yet. “Because of their strong religious believes, it is quite difficult for me to be honest,” he said. He does however hope that he can one day gather enough strength to be able to tell his parents, because pretending to be someone you’re not can have its psychological toll. “I’m supposed to share everything with my parents, but I’m too scared of how they’ll react,” he said. This is a problem that many of Namibia’s youth struggle with. Every day around the world, LGBTIQ people’s human rights and dignity are abused in ways that shock the conscience. The stories of their struggles and their resilience are astounding, yet remain unknown or ignored by those with the power to make change.
Importance of pride month
Pride month
“Celebrating pride shows the country that we as the LGBTQIA+ community will not remain silent to the unfair treatment and discrimination that most members of the community go through. Pride allows us to stand together”- Marcello Coetzee
“Pride month is a celebration of the tenacity of the human spirit that despite the tribulations and systems put in place, love and inclusivity, which the rainbow community wants to foster still prevails. Pride month is not necessarily just for queer people but for allies and those who resect and support the rainbow community”- Aedin Mohrmann