Aunty Nangy Dear Aunty NangyPlease help me. I am a 20-year-old man and I really want to enjoy sex. My problem is that when it comes to sex I always release the sperm so quickly, in about nine seconds and I do not enjoy that moment. Please help Aunty, I really want to enjoy sex.
My child, what you are suffering from is known as premature ejaculation. Many men, younger and older, suffer from this syndrome. It is not uncommon at all. You do not say how long you have been having sex but if it is a short time, then this is a condition that will eventually go away, as you become more ‘trained’ – so to speak. If you have been having sex for a few years, then you could have a medical problem and I suggest you get to a doctor as soon as possible. If you are in a relationship with a girl you trust, you can try to extend the foreplay by controlling the thrusting so that you do not ejaculate so quickly. This takes time and effort and lots of practice. I wish you luck and remember, always use a condom.
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am 20 and my boyfriend is 23. He loves me too much but he is too old for me? Please help me Aunty Nangy.
Not at all! This is a good age gap – three years is wonderful. If someone is telling you he is too old for you, then who do they want you to date? Men mature far slower than girls and that is why we as women always look for someone a little older – not too much, just a little. So, if he is good to you and treats you well, you can count yourself blessed child. Enjoy your young love and flourish!
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am a 22-year-old young lady. I have the problem with my breasts – they are very long… am I normal? Another problem is that my periods have stopped. I donot know what is wrong with me… please Aunty assist me!
Let us begin with your breasts. They come in all shapes and sizes… there are round ones, long ones, flat ones, wide ones and so on. Some point sideways and others down while others perk all the way up and others just face forward. There is nothing wrong with your breasts. However, if you do not like the way they look, you can always buy a nice push-up or padded bra to enhance the shape to round. These are not too expensive and are available everywhere. With regards your periods, you need to get to a doctor immediately. Do not delay my child. You could be pregnant there could be something else wrong. It is not always a serious problem but if left untreated, hormones can really mess up things later in life. Please have yourself checked out urgently.
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am 32 but I do not have a child.
Do you have a husband? Or a boyfriend? Are you having regular sex? I assume it is unprotected because otherwise there is not a chance you will fall pregnant. I do not know why you want to have a child but you must remember, they are a big responsibility. In any case, it is my hope that you are married and trying for a baby. In that case, have yourself checked out by a doctor. Your ovulation cycle must be normal which means you must have monthly periods at regular intervals, roughly the same time. If not, you will struggle to fall pregnant. There could also be issues with your uterus so a doctor must look. If you are with one partner, the problem could also lie with his fertility so, both of you must go and see a doctor.
Dear Aunty Nangy
I have a boyfriend. He is 45 and I am 26. I love him so much, the problem is that he is married. Help me please!
There is no way I can give you any advice. You need to leave him immediately and find someone who is available.
Dear Aunty Nangy
I am 14 years old and I am dating a guy who is 16. I want to break my virginity with him... what should I do Aunty?
Child, please, listen to me. Do not do it. You are too young to understand what you are giving away. You should be learning and studying not thinking about having sex. Please find an elder in your community, or a teacher you trust to confide it. I am worried that you ask me such a question as to what you must do? You must study and be a good daughter. But I fear that even though I pray that you do not do it, you will. So I implore you child, use protection and be careful.