Aunty Nangy I am scared, Dear Aunty Nangy, I am 17 and I am dating a boy who is 26. We are having sex but the other night we did not use a condom. Am I going to get pregnant?If you are old enough to have sex (which I do not believe you are) then you should be old enough to know the answer to that question. Of course, you can fall pregnant. And even worse, you can contract HIV or even other venereal diseases. Why are you dating someone who is nine years older than you? You should be hitting the books and concentrating on your schoolwork not worrying about getting pregnant. If you are lucky enough that there are no consequences of that night, I hope you get your act together. Leave this man, and concentrate on your schoolwork.
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 24 years old lady have a period problem. I used to have back pain, low abdominal pain, diarrhoea and vomiting. I have visited clinics several times but no improvement. I went to private doctors all I get was Ibuprofin which only helps at the time you take it. I have to visit the doctor every month which is a problem. I went to the state hospital and they advised me to get pregnant saying it might help me, but I am not ready for the pregnancy as I am unemployed. Help me please.
My dear child, please do not get pregnant. Pregnancy is not a cure for the problems you are having. You need to get to a gynaecologist who can scan your uterus and furthermore, do a hormone screening in your blood to see if your hormones are in balance. I believe they are not. A scan will also help the doctor to see if there are any problems inside the uterus. Sometimes, when you take the pill, it brings your hormone cycles under control and this will help you. Get to a gynaecologist immediately please.
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem. I do not know how to approach girls.
You do not say how old you are but I am guessing you are very young. One thing you must remember is that girls can spot fake a mile away. If you want to have a nice girlfriend who is honest and wants to stay true, the best approach is for you to also be honest. Girls appreciate a shy guy, I promise you, but only if it is the right girl. So smile my boy, and be yourself!
Dear Auntie Nangy. I am 18 and l have a boyfriend who tells me that he loves me until his very last bullet. It is true Aunty?
You will see eternal love in the way he treats you – then you will know it is true.
Dear Aunty Nangy, I am a 19- year-old girl dating a guy who is 23 years old. We love each other and we promised each other to be together forever. Please Aunty, help me, what am I supposed to do between me and him? We love each other and we do not want to leave one another.
I have to assume someone, be it family or friends, does not want you to be together otherwise why would you ask me this question. If it is only friends, you can ignore them and be happy together but, if it is your relatives or parents, your problem is a little more complicated. I would suggest that you find an ally – your mother or an aunt or granny who can be on your side and then, you need to explain to the family why you are good for each other. Good luck.
Dear Aunty Nangy, I really need your help and your advice. I am 15 and I am dating a guy of 19. I want to break my virginity with him… what should I do Auntie?
Please do not consider this child. You are far too young to be having sex. We need our young girls to go to school and learn and better themselves. Sex is for adults and you are not yet one. If he is pressuring you to have sex then he is not the man for you. Save your virginity until you are old enough to understand what it means to have sex and you are able to deal with the consequences. There are too many risks involved. Please, do not lie down with this boy.