Aunty Nangy What is love? ?I am a 14-year-old girl and I have a problem. I don''t believe in love because boys like me and I just want to be friends with them but they say I am beautiful and they like me a lot because of my beauty.
Please help me to understand what love is please. Someone has defined love as ''an intangible connection between two people that feels exceptionally good''.
?You don''t have a problem my dear. I think you know what you want.
Most girls of your age get confused by the hormonal changes that take place in their bodies during this puberty stage and go wild.
Keep your cool and keep your wisdom and stay away from the boys who will not only break your virginity, but your heart too.
You are beautiful and you have said it so, don''t rush and get into premature love affairs that can spoil your bright future for good.
He has gone cold
?I''m a girl, 15, and I fell in love with a 17-year-old boy. At first, everything was going well but now he doesn''t even text or call me anymore as he used to do.
He used to tell me that he loves and respects me. Are we still together? Help me please Aunty.
?My dear, before I can help you, also help yourself. At 15, you are too young to sound so desperate and worry about a boy who seems to have found a better love nest. Stop stressing yourself about men who want to take you for a ride. Forget about this guy, he definitely does not love you and this is just a passing infatuation. Life is larger than love. Love yourself and have confidence in yourself.
Dating a man
I have never seen
? I have a problem with my boyfriend. He doesn''t like to reply my texts sometimes. We have been dating for two years but we never met. Does he love me?
? You have been blind dating for two years? Aunty Nangy finds it very difficult to understand how you claim to be in love with a man you have never seen for the past two years and you are not worried about it.
Are you saying there are no serious men around you that you can fall in love with instead of waiting for a man you have never seen? Come on baby, wake up and stop abusing yourself. That man is not a problem but yourself.
She doesn''t
reach orgasm
?Aunty Nangy, I have a problem with my girl. We love each other so deeply but the problem is that she doesn''t produce spasms or is she afraid? I''m confused about it. Please help me.
?I am not sure whether I understand what you are telling me as your problem. What spasms are you talking about? You mean the shiver and trembling that a woman and a man experience when they reach orgasm when making love? If this is what you mean then you are the one who is not taking her to cloud 9! The man is the driver who takes the woman to the sex destination so take her to her destination.
Don''t just come and go in a heated rush. She wants a slow hand!
Whose problem is it?
?Auntie Nangy, l am 31 years old and I am dating a woman who is 26 years old. She doesn''t
have a kid in her life, but l have a child from another woman. We have been together for seven years, but have no kids together. Who has a problem?
?You have to be very careful here, because indirectly you are saying it could be the woman, because you have a child with another woman. What makes you so sure that child is yours, because some women sleep with several men and just choose to give one man the child. I also know couples who both had children before meeting, but they failed to have children together. Both of you must see a gynaecologist to see where the problem lies.
She left me
? l have a problem. l am 37 years old and l am dating a woman who is 27. We have a house. My woman left and it is four months now. She does not want me to bring another woman in our house. What can l do? Please help me.
? For sure you have a problem. But you did not tell me why she left home and where she went to. I am not siding with the woman but you seem to be holding back important information which will help me to give you good advice. I find it strange that a lover can just leave the relationship for no reason. From what you have said I think that you two are just living together and in a very casual sex relationship.
If this is the case, then no one takes the other person seriously because your relationship is just child''s play. It appears she is the one who owns the place that you live in and if it is her house, then for sure you cannot have sex with another woman in her house. Get your own sex nest and maybe that is why she left you and she is doing it away from you. Try fasting, she will come back.