I love him more I love him moreAuntie Nangy, I am a 20-year-old girl and I have a problem with my boyfriend. We dated last year and he dumped me. This year, we are back together again, but he behaves like he is not interested in me, but I love him too much. What can I do, please help me auntie.
I can see that you are blinded by love emotionally and physically and so you cannot make a bold decision. If you can see that you are falling into a pit and you keep walking, it can only mean that you are stupid. Love is reciprocal or you do good to a partner who is also good to you. At 20 you are too young to sound so desperate. There are many young men out there who are ready to show you what love is – Leave him and find a more deserving lover.
I missed my period
Aunty Nangy, I'm really worried about a new girl friend I proposed using the cell phone several days back, but I got her number from her relative. We met for the first time just to meet each other, because we had never met before. She also asked me to bring something for her and I did. But since that day we met, up to now, she does not even send messages to me, but I'm the only person who sends messages. She used to reply to me very well at the beginning. I don't know now if she also loves me as much as I do love her, because she no longer sends messages to me like the way she used to before we met. Please I need your help on this.
From what you have said, this girl never meant to take you seriously. Firstly, she asked for a gift from you before you even met and you gave her this at your first meeting. After that she starts to run away from you by not communicating. There is nothing that shows that she is serious. What I see in her is a girl who is out to use you by asking you to buy her gifts. She got what she wanted and probably is not happy about what she saw when you met. Just leave her and move on.
He is a liar
Aunty Nangy, I am in love with a guy who is 18 years old. The problem is he is always lying to me, what must I do?
My honest advice to you is to just dump the liar. What do you expect from a teenager? I don't know how old you are and if you had said your age I would understand you better.
Shelving my love
Aunty Nangy, he loves me too much. The problem is that I am writing my grade 12 exams and so far I wrote Oshindonga and Biology and I want to end this relationship for a while until next year when I get my results, but I am afraid to tell him. What can I do?
Your reasons are not very convincing to me. You seem to be hiding behind your studies to justify the break up. Otherwise just tell the guy the honest truth about your feelings rather than play this game of hide and seek. It is unfair and it hurts.
I used contraceptives, but may be pregnant
Aunty Nangy, I am a girl aged 21 and I am confused and do not know whether I am pregnant or not. I had sex with my boyfriend on 18 August and I used contraceptives, but I did not get my period. Am I pregnant?
It is difficult to say so the best is to buy a pregnancy test kit from the pharmacy or go to the clinic. Some men tell women lies that if they take contraceptive pills before sex they will not fall pregnant and this sounds like what you did. Thinking too much and worrying about pregnancy can also delay your periods.
Whose problem is it?
Auntie Nangy, l am 31 years old and I am dating a woman who is 26 years old. She doesn't have a kid in her life, but l have a child from another woman. We have been together for seven years, but have no kids together. Who has a problem?
You have to be very careful here, because indirectly you are saying it could be the woman, because you have a child with another woman. What makes you so sure that child is yours, because some women sleep with several men and just choose to give one man the child. I also know couples who both had children before meeting, but they failed to have children together. Both of you must see a gynaecologist to see where the problem lies.