Auntie Nangy I doubt his love
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a girl who is 19 years old. I am dating a 20-year-old guy. My problem is; whenever I text him, he sometimes ignores my text and even says he is busy when he is not. If I call him, he will answer but will not say anything else. I don’t know what to do?
My dear, I have heard many women complaining who are in a situation like yours. The problem that I see with many relationships is that often it is the women who seem to dedicate their all in a romantic relationship and you are one such woman. In most cases, you find one partner is the one who is genuinely in love and is the one who keeps fanning the romantic fire while the other one does little or nothing to love back. I always warn women not to be the desperado in a relationship because when you become the desperado and your man dumps you for another chick, then you realise that your man was taking for a ride. It hurts for sure when your man does not reply to your messages and says nothing romantic when you call him. I wouldn’t like to be treated like a worn-out toy and at 19, you are too young to be put through this kind of emotional torture. Just pack your love bags and move on.
Dating married men
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my best friend who is 15 years old and she is dating two married guys and which is not good at all. Please help me how to advise her.
I would like to thank you for showing concern about your friend. However, I am deeply concerned about the casual attitude that the girls of today have about their future. You are worried about your friend because you care for her future and wellbeing. When people become friends, it means that you were brought together by many common elements between the two of you and as friends we help each other to correct mistakes we make. Friends are frank with each other and I strongly believe when you sit your friend and talk to her about her undesirable and risky behaviour, she will listen to you and change her ways. What is worrying is that she is very young and at that age she is dating married men and that spells a very big problem for her and her parents. I advise you to find the right time and the right place to engage in a meaningful discussion with her. As friends I am sure you talk about your aspirations in life. You are both young and there is no reason why prostitution should derail your future plans. The fact that you have written and asked for advice makes me happy because you know what your friend is doing is very wrong. Besides exposing herself to the danger of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, your friend also risks becoming a gender violence victim. She is being used by these married men as a sex toy and they will dump her sooner or later and if they find out she is cheating on them she will regret it all.
I’m hot
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 14-year-old boy. The girls at my school are always fighting over me and I don’t want this. What can I do?
You must be hot. I have always warned teenagers like you not to lose your reasoning during this very delicate stage of your life. At this age of transformation from childhood to adulthood, the hormones can make you wild. There is nothing much you can do about the catfights to earn your slot because the girls have a crush on you. Keep your cool because if you lose your head like the girls you will find yourself entangled in puppy love hell. Stay clear and concentrate on your studies.
My boyfriend raped me
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 19 and I am dating a 25-year-old boy who forced me to have sex. I am at school so, what should I do?
Praise God if you are not pregnant and have not contracted sexually transmitted infections because I do not think your man had time to wear a condom. Rape is a crime and if you did not agree then I advise you to ditch the rapist. Men of this character are the screw and dump type so you are in danger. If I were you then I would not meet this guy where he can repeat the act. Obviously he betrayed your trust in him by raping you. Concentrate on your schoolwork - there is need to rush it. Sex will forever be sweet and when you are done with your education and training you will still find it sweet and purposefully… God made it so.
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a girl who is 19 years old. I am dating a 20-year-old guy. My problem is; whenever I text him, he sometimes ignores my text and even says he is busy when he is not. If I call him, he will answer but will not say anything else. I don’t know what to do?
My dear, I have heard many women complaining who are in a situation like yours. The problem that I see with many relationships is that often it is the women who seem to dedicate their all in a romantic relationship and you are one such woman. In most cases, you find one partner is the one who is genuinely in love and is the one who keeps fanning the romantic fire while the other one does little or nothing to love back. I always warn women not to be the desperado in a relationship because when you become the desperado and your man dumps you for another chick, then you realise that your man was taking for a ride. It hurts for sure when your man does not reply to your messages and says nothing romantic when you call him. I wouldn’t like to be treated like a worn-out toy and at 19, you are too young to be put through this kind of emotional torture. Just pack your love bags and move on.
Dating married men
Dear Auntie Nangy, I have a problem with my best friend who is 15 years old and she is dating two married guys and which is not good at all. Please help me how to advise her.
I would like to thank you for showing concern about your friend. However, I am deeply concerned about the casual attitude that the girls of today have about their future. You are worried about your friend because you care for her future and wellbeing. When people become friends, it means that you were brought together by many common elements between the two of you and as friends we help each other to correct mistakes we make. Friends are frank with each other and I strongly believe when you sit your friend and talk to her about her undesirable and risky behaviour, she will listen to you and change her ways. What is worrying is that she is very young and at that age she is dating married men and that spells a very big problem for her and her parents. I advise you to find the right time and the right place to engage in a meaningful discussion with her. As friends I am sure you talk about your aspirations in life. You are both young and there is no reason why prostitution should derail your future plans. The fact that you have written and asked for advice makes me happy because you know what your friend is doing is very wrong. Besides exposing herself to the danger of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, your friend also risks becoming a gender violence victim. She is being used by these married men as a sex toy and they will dump her sooner or later and if they find out she is cheating on them she will regret it all.
I’m hot
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am a 14-year-old boy. The girls at my school are always fighting over me and I don’t want this. What can I do?
You must be hot. I have always warned teenagers like you not to lose your reasoning during this very delicate stage of your life. At this age of transformation from childhood to adulthood, the hormones can make you wild. There is nothing much you can do about the catfights to earn your slot because the girls have a crush on you. Keep your cool because if you lose your head like the girls you will find yourself entangled in puppy love hell. Stay clear and concentrate on your studies.
My boyfriend raped me
Dear Auntie Nangy, I am 19 and I am dating a 25-year-old boy who forced me to have sex. I am at school so, what should I do?
Praise God if you are not pregnant and have not contracted sexually transmitted infections because I do not think your man had time to wear a condom. Rape is a crime and if you did not agree then I advise you to ditch the rapist. Men of this character are the screw and dump type so you are in danger. If I were you then I would not meet this guy where he can repeat the act. Obviously he betrayed your trust in him by raping you. Concentrate on your schoolwork - there is need to rush it. Sex will forever be sweet and when you are done with your education and training you will still find it sweet and purposefully… God made it so.