Choose your friends wisely We have all heard the cliché: “Show me who your friend is and I will tell you who you are.” As clichéd as it is, that statement is an accurate reflection of the realities of the kind of people you choose to be around you.
Any teenager would spend their teen years making sure they choose the right kinds of friends. However, what exactly is the right kind of friend? I do not have the answers but I believe your friends should have the same kind of interests as you; they should be loyal to you and willing to assist you if possible. Friends are important because they bring companionship, support and enrichment to life.
Take a look at your friend right now and ask yourself “Will we still be friends after five years?” The one thing I've noticed with friendships, especially with the youth, is that we are never honest with each other. We hardly tell each other the truth because we are afraid the bond we have will be lost. That for me is the most dangerous thing because not being open with each other spells trouble for any kind of relationship.
You should also start to question the dynamics of your friendship. Is it worth it to be friends with this person? This is mainly to make sure that you do not end up with a backstabber for a friend. What kind of conversations do you have with your friends? If it is always about girls or the boys you should date or if your conversations are only fruitful when you talk about where you should chill, I believe those are not really your true friends. A friend is someone who you should have constructive conversations with as well; does he/she give you advice on things that are important to you? Do they reprimand you when you commit wrongs without being worried about the state of your relationship? You need to build the foundations of your friendship on loyalty, honesty and love.
At times, we may come across situations where we doubt our decisions and capabilities. In situations like these, friends help us by providing us with a reality check. They never let us down and stand besides us like a rock while we are in the midst of tackling the most drastic adversaries in our lives. True friends show faith in us and make us believe in our capabilities keeping aside all negative feelings of jealousy, agony and hatred.
Friendship is a beautiful bond but while making friends, it is essential to keep in mind that one should always be aware so as to differentiate between true friends and false friends. It is essential to be capable of making proper choices in life, especially when we are interested in choosing the group of friends we want to support and be with for the rest of our lives. Choosing proper friends is a bit difficult but not impossible. We should have a group of friends who are disciplined and punctual individuals. This is essential because of the reason that we start becoming like the people we hang out with most. If, for example, one or two of our close friends are involved in bad habits such as smoking, drinking and taking drugs, eventually we will follow suit.
All of us need somebody with whom we can share our emotions. A friend is someone can trust. There are times when your family fails to solve all the problems of your life; you can easily get out of some problems if you are in communication with a few great friends.
Friends can be family. Sometimes our friends are the family we wish we had. Sometimes we have difficulty with our own family. We may feel misunderstood, judged, ridiculed, or even ignored. In that case, our friends often fill in for what is not provided by our own family. In the best-case scenario, family members can also be good friends.
Securing true friendship is essential to become successful in all the areas of life, so choose wisely.
shona@namibiansun.com
Any teenager would spend their teen years making sure they choose the right kinds of friends. However, what exactly is the right kind of friend? I do not have the answers but I believe your friends should have the same kind of interests as you; they should be loyal to you and willing to assist you if possible. Friends are important because they bring companionship, support and enrichment to life.
Take a look at your friend right now and ask yourself “Will we still be friends after five years?” The one thing I've noticed with friendships, especially with the youth, is that we are never honest with each other. We hardly tell each other the truth because we are afraid the bond we have will be lost. That for me is the most dangerous thing because not being open with each other spells trouble for any kind of relationship.
You should also start to question the dynamics of your friendship. Is it worth it to be friends with this person? This is mainly to make sure that you do not end up with a backstabber for a friend. What kind of conversations do you have with your friends? If it is always about girls or the boys you should date or if your conversations are only fruitful when you talk about where you should chill, I believe those are not really your true friends. A friend is someone who you should have constructive conversations with as well; does he/she give you advice on things that are important to you? Do they reprimand you when you commit wrongs without being worried about the state of your relationship? You need to build the foundations of your friendship on loyalty, honesty and love.
At times, we may come across situations where we doubt our decisions and capabilities. In situations like these, friends help us by providing us with a reality check. They never let us down and stand besides us like a rock while we are in the midst of tackling the most drastic adversaries in our lives. True friends show faith in us and make us believe in our capabilities keeping aside all negative feelings of jealousy, agony and hatred.
Friendship is a beautiful bond but while making friends, it is essential to keep in mind that one should always be aware so as to differentiate between true friends and false friends. It is essential to be capable of making proper choices in life, especially when we are interested in choosing the group of friends we want to support and be with for the rest of our lives. Choosing proper friends is a bit difficult but not impossible. We should have a group of friends who are disciplined and punctual individuals. This is essential because of the reason that we start becoming like the people we hang out with most. If, for example, one or two of our close friends are involved in bad habits such as smoking, drinking and taking drugs, eventually we will follow suit.
All of us need somebody with whom we can share our emotions. A friend is someone can trust. There are times when your family fails to solve all the problems of your life; you can easily get out of some problems if you are in communication with a few great friends.
Friends can be family. Sometimes our friends are the family we wish we had. Sometimes we have difficulty with our own family. We may feel misunderstood, judged, ridiculed, or even ignored. In that case, our friends often fill in for what is not provided by our own family. In the best-case scenario, family members can also be good friends.
Securing true friendship is essential to become successful in all the areas of life, so choose wisely.
shona@namibiansun.com